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How to Orgasm without Intercourse

While a lovemaking session can be meaningful without an orgasm, it may leave one or both partners unsatisfied, making you go from "O" to "oh no."

Men sometimes have trouble giving women a satisfying orgasm because they often take for granted the fact that while penetration is sufficient for them, it might not be for their partner.

There are a number of ways to stimulate your partner to the point of orgasm without intercourse, and much of it has more to do with psychological stimulation than physical. Although it's uncommon for some to reach climax without any kind of genital or physical stimulation, it does happen - and it should be celebrated. More common, however, is an orgasm without penetrative intercourse.

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As most women know, clitoral stimulation is one of the most exhilarating and stimulating means to achieve climax, but it's often undervalued by men, who are quick to go right to penetration.

Here are some simple recommendations on how to get you and your partner in the right frame of mind necessary to achieve an orgasm without intercourse.


Looking

The initial stage of sexual attraction is the simple act of looking. Noticing someone's general appearance, their hair, size, shape, color, and especially their face is what launches someone's attraction to another.

In the same way that attraction is conceived by looking at one another, partners can also become lusty for one another based solely on visual stimulation.

Try leaving the lights on before you engage your partner and undressing one another slowly so that you can each appreciate the other's body. Wear skimpy underwear and prolong the act of touching one another until neither of you can stand it anymore for maximum arousal.

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Touching

Touching one another is where things really start to get interesting, but most couples (especially men) skip over certain body parts and go straight for others. What a waste. Every part of our bodies is sensitive to touch. All of our nerves lead back to our spinal cord and then eventually to our brains, where they bundle and send stimulus messages to and fro, creating waves of sensation.


Touching can produce a powerful stimulating effect, and certain body parts are more sensitive than we often give them credit for.

Pay special attention to the ears, fingertips, stomach, neck, small of the back, hip bones, and even, yes, the feet. The average foot is home to hundreds of thousands of nerve clusters, and while it may take some experimentation, you might find that it's a powerhouse for stimulation.

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Kissing

There are millions of nerve sensors in the mouth, and even more located on the lips. As you're probably already aware, the lips themselves are a sexual organ, or at the very least a sensual one. When kissing your partner, take the opportunity to run your fingers through his hair, caress his face, and explore other parts within your reach.

Kissing is an important part of stimulation, but don't try to steamroll the process. Do it gently at first before becoming more playful, passionate, or thorough.


A few hints on what tactics do not make for a sensual kissing experience: slobbering on your partner, stabbing your tongue into your partner's mouth or wiggling it around like an eel, or biting either the bottom or top lip too hard.

Biting your partner's lip gently can be sexy, but if there's a possibility you're going to be leaving bruises, you're probably not doing it right, unless you know for a fact that's what your partner likes.

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Remember, kissing, like most sexual activities, isn't taught anywhere, and most people learn it through experience or intuition - and not everyone's experience and intuition are spot-on. If there's something you want that your partner isn't doing, tell him. He'll do it if he knows you like it.

More Touching

When things have gotten too steamy for a simple make-out session, don't overlook the importance of touching. Touching the lower abdomen, buttocks, inside of the thighs all have a powerful stimulation effect.

It's important to be exploratory and gentle, rather than hasty. If you're in a hurry to get to the finish line, doing it without intercourse is probably not the route to go, so don't rush the process.


Movies and television have used extensive creative license to make the process of rushing into sex appear passionate, but this kind of frenzy isn't always as effective in real life. Shows how much they know.

Mutual Masturbation

Most people achieve their first orgasm by themselves via masturbation, but far fewer engage in the activity with their partners once they've established a sexual relationship. Try experimenting with different tactics, such as beginning by touching yourself and then encouraging your partner to "finish up."

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Women know their bodies, and we know what we like when we do it ourselves, so communicating your desires to your partner is a crucial component of achieving an orgasm sans penetration.

While the logistics of mutual masturbation - not to mention the distraction - can sometimes be tricky to work out, with a little practice and communication, you'll be surprised how satisfying manual stimulation can be.


Oral Stimulation

Finally, the Holy Grail of orgasm without intercourse: oral sex. The tongue plays a lead role here, but don't forget the importance of communicating what feels good to your partner. Don't be shy about saying what you like and what you don't - this failure to communicate can lead to a frustrating experience in the bedroom.

The clitoris is an exceptionally sensitive organ, and its stimulation can sometimes be too much, so you might need to indicate to your partner that he needs to slow down or explore other parts of your body for a brief break. On the other hand, oral sex can also be a great way to achieve multiple orgasms, although not everyone is biologically capable of doing so.

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When done properly, oral sex can easily supplant penetration, and neither you nor your partner will feel that you missed out on anything. Remember to reciprocate your partner's good deed, and you'll both fall asleep happy.


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How to Choose the Best Condom for You

Contrary to popular belief, safe sex does not equal lame sex. In fact, having good sexual health habits keeps sex fun. No one wants to deal with the discomfort that accompanies certain STDs - burning urination is definitely not fun, and we all know about the consequences of some of the more serious STDs.

To lessen your chance of catching a nasty STD, it is essential to pick condoms that are effective and even add an element of fun to your sex life, in case you need yet one more reason to cover up. After all, who doesn't want to get the most bang for their buck?

Selecting Your Condom

When it comes to condoms, size definitely matters. Ignore that macho voice in your head that says bigger is better. If you get a condom that is too large, it will leave too much space at the tip or the base to fit properly. Not only will this leave your condom vulnerable to slippage, but it will also make you look smaller relative to the size of your condom.

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However, if your condom is too small, it may break during sex. Finding the right fit is an important part of the selection process. If you are not sure about the proper size, read the packaging to find out what works for your package. There are often charts or guides on the back of a condom box that will help you find the perfect fit.


There is a vast selection of textures, including ribbed, extra thin, and condoms with exotic patterns. These are marketed as pleasure enhancers, but in practice, it all comes down to preference: some men like the added sensation, while others find it distracting. The same goes for women. Before you undress, address this issue so you avoid any distraction during the main attraction.

Pre-lubricated condoms also figure into the mix. These condoms cost more than your standard protection, but they may add a new layer of excitement to your sex life. Pre-lubricated condoms can also be big timesavers in the bedroom. Between getting the condom on and lubing up, you can waste precious time. With pre-lubricated condoms you elimiate one step and get down to getting down faster.

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Flavored condoms are popular for oral play. It is vital to realize that no matter what flavor, material or brand you use, your partner is still taking a trip down to your nether regions, and that means you still need to wash up; flavor should be an enhancement, not a cover-up for your funky junk.

Spermicidal condoms are great for people who want an added layer of protection to ensure that they don't make any babies. Because spermicidal condoms taste bad, make sure that you keep a few flavored condoms on hand. Use the flavored condoms to start, then switch to a spermicidal condom when things start to heat up.


Condom Material Matters

Another condom selection issue is the material. This means that you need to know in advance about any allergies. Some women and men have allergic reactions to latex or rubber. If you notice inflammation issues during sex with a certain material, avoid that material when you shop for condoms in the future.

When it comes to feeling the most sensation during sex while still playing it safe, microsheer is the ideal material. It is thinner than other materials, yet more resistant to tearing than anything else currently on the market. It also transmits body heat from you to your partner, so you might even forget it is on. Microsheer costs more than latex or rubber, but think of it as an investment; the cost of a doctor visit or emergency contraceptives is higher than the cost of condoms, after all.

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Why Condom Use Is Important

Unwanted pregnancies are tough. So are sexually transmitted infections. When you hear friends complain about how condoms ruin the experience, bear in mind that some extra padding between you and your partner feels better than the panic of having an unwanted pregnancy or disease on your hands.

Aside from the pain and irritation high-risk sex can lead to, there is also the limitation on your pool of potential partners. Medical experts are required to respect your privacy, but any time you infect a partner, word gets around.

When this happens, the idea that condoms make sex less enjoyable becomes moot. You cannot have worse sex if you are having no sex at all. The sheer range of condom selection and the fact that you can pick condoms that will actually enhance your sex life should help you to get over this mental hump so that you can hump safely.


Condoms are Important for Men and Women

Condom selection is a specific aspect of sexual health that every sexually active person must consider. For women who do not want children, birth control is a key component of their health care, and one that is addressed during gynecologist visits. However, birth control and the prevention of sexually transmitted infections are two entirely separate things. This means women on birth control should always carry condoms, just to be safe.

For men, condom selection plays a bigger role in their sexual health because there are fewer prescriptions and surgical options. Vasectomies are costly, fairly permanent and can be risky for young men, plus they do not address the risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection.

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Condoms will address both issues, and they will be more affordable and practical while you are still playing the field, or even when you settle down but are still not ready for children just yet.

Overall, the facts above mean that no matter your gender, what type of sex you plan on having, or how often you plan to have sex, it is essential to your sexual health that your condom selection is smart and that you practice safe sex with every partner. If you have specific questions about condom selection, practicing safe sex or other sexual health issues, contact a gynecologist or urologist.


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Must-Have Sex Toys

Sex toys can be a great addition to your bedroom antics, whether you are using them with a partner or by yourself. Through thousands of years of design innovation-yes, even cavemen (and women) used primitive sex toys-we've come a long way in sex toy function and design, practically assuring that your perfect sex toy is already out there, just waiting for you to find it.

 

Types of Sex Toys

Sex toys come in a huge assortment of shapes, sizes, styles, textures, and functions, so it's important to think about the kind of sensation you would like a toy to provide in order to determine which one is right for you.

Some sex toys are meant for external use only, while others can be used internally as well. Once again, it's all about what you are looking to get out of your sexual play.

Here are some basic descriptions of a few of the most popular types of sex toys:

Vibrators - Basically anything that vibrates is a vibrator, and they come in all shapes and sizes. Vibrators can be designed for external use, internal use, or both.

Penis Rings - These are actual rings that can fit on the base of a penis (or around the penis and scrotum) to enhance sensation by constricting blood flow, which can create longer and firmer erections in some men.


Sexy Games - Forget Monopoly and Chance, today's couples have a vast selection of sexy board games and card games to help get them in the mood for some kinky fun.

Anal Toys - Some toys are specially designed for anal play. Men's anal toys are typically designed to stimulate the prostate, which is the male equivalent of the G-Spot in women. Women commonly use anal toys as well since they can create a feeling of fullness which many women enjoy.

Oils and Edibles - While massage oils and edible products aren't actually sex toys, they can heighten your sexual play. There are a wide variety of massage oils, edible lubricants and body paint (even chocolate!) for folks who like to get a little messy in the bedroom.

After you've familiarized yourself with some of the types of sex toys on the market, you'll need to start narrowing down your options to determine which sex toys are right for you, or you and your partner.

 

Choosing a Sex Toy

Before you go to a sex toy store or start shopping online, it's always a good idea to know a little bit about what you want in advance, since the selection can be overwhelming.


When choosing a sex toy you have a lot to consider including:

Function - What sensations are you looking for? Do you want a toy that provides external stimulation, internal stimulation, or both? Is this toy just for you or will you be using it with a partner? If the sex toy is meant to be used by a couple, you'll want to look for features you'll both enjoy.

Material - Sex toys come in a lot of different materials including plastic, silicone, metal, wood, and even glass. The material the sex toy is made from will in part determine its price and quality. Cheap sex toys made from plastic tend to break easily, while sex toys made from porous materials can collect bacteria, which make them difficult or impossible to clean properly. Each material will have pros and cons and will require different care, cleaning, and storage. All of these factors should be considered before you purchase a sex toy.

Your Body - Your individual tastes and sensitivity levels should be a major factor in the sex toy(s) you purchase. Some vibrators are too strong, others are too weak. Some sex toys must be used manually and others have remote controls so you can play "hands free." Other toys have a variety of textures, bumps, ripples, and so on meant to stimulate you in different ways.

What one person loves, another will surely hate, so being aware of your body will greatly help your search for the perfect sex toy. You'll need to really think about what turns you on, what type of stimulation you enjoy and what sensations you want to stay away from.


Sex Toy Novelties and Accessories

Sex toys need special care and proper cleaning, but sometimes they also need accessories. For example, while all bodies are different, you'll most likely need some lubricant to go along with your sex toys. If you are using an anal toy, lubricant is a must! Unlike a vagina, your rectum does not create lubricant on its own so you have to apply lubricant in order to engage in anal play, either with a sex toy or another person

When choosing a lubricant, try to stick with a water or gel-based lubricant that does not contain glycerin. Women prone to yeast infections should absolutely stay away from lubes with glycerin (frequently found in "flavored" lubricants) as these can cause yeast infections to occur.

Additionally, if you plan on sharing a sex toy made for internal use, you'll want to ensure your toy is thoroughly cleaned between uses or that you put a condom on your sex toy to prevent spreading fluids (if you are sharing during the same sex session). This is crucial if you intend to use a toy both vaginally and anally.

Sex toy storage is another important consideration. Some toys will come with their own carrying case or storage box, but you'll need to look at the directions on your sex toy to find out the best way to store your toy to extend its lifespan. You may want to purchase a special storage container suited to your toy's material to help with any storage concerns.


Sexual novelties like edible oils, chocolate body paint, and even "70s throwbacks like edible panties can usually be found in sex toy stores, but it is best to ensure the quality of these toys is up to your standards before you buy them, as they tend to be cheaply manufactured and not as tasty as they seem; however, there are always exceptions.

Sex toys can help bring some extra fun into your bedroom, even if you're the only one there! In order to find the right sex toy for you, or for you and your partner, you'll need to really think about what you love, what you don't love, how you want to use your toy, and what toy best fits your lifestyle; and your style in the bedroom.

With so many sex toys out there to choose from, the options might seem overwhelming, but by paying special attention to areas like function, style, and material, you're well on your way to finding the perfect sex toy for you!

 


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