Many kids suffer from low self-esteem, which can lead to depression and other feelings of worthlessness. A child's self-esteem forms early in life, even when a child is a baby learning to roll over successfully. The pattern of trying, failing, trying again and ultimately succeeding builds a child's self-esteem intrinsically. Kids with healthy self-esteem have an easier time resisting peer pressure, recovering from disappointment and resolving conflicts. Kids who have low self-esteem often make sweeping generalizations, like "I'm stupid," "I'll never get it right" and "I can't do anything."A sense of pessimism dominates their outlook, and they get frustrated easily - or simply stop trying new things entirely. Parents can help in many ways, mainly by showing love and support, and with appropriate praise. Be conscious of what you say and how you say it - when a child is upset about losing a soccer game for instance, don't promise him that if he tries harder, he'll win next time.
Simply appreciate the child's efforts in the game; reward not only the outcome, but also the effort. Be a great role model for your child, appreciating your own accomplishments and not focusing on flaws. Watch your kids as they interact in groups - kids with high self-esteem are comfortable in group settings and when conflict arises, they can work toward agreement within the group by finding solutions and communicating with other kids. Frame your responses in a positive light, focusing on the child's accomplishments, even if it may seem difficult. If your child comes home and says, "I hate school. I can't do reading," then give encouragement with a statement like, "You're a great student, but we just need to spend some extra time on reading. I'll help you." Spontaneous affection and a loving home environment go a long way in encouraging positive self-esteem.