They say that breaking up is hard to do - and it is. For people, the end of a relationship can often feel like the death of a loved one. Because the experience is so painful, there is usually a period of grief and a multitude of emotions ranging from sadness to anger to shock. Regardless of whether you were the dumper or the dumpee, getting over a split can be a long, life-changing process. First and foremost, give yourself time. The pain isn't going to go away overnight. For many people, it takes months or years to recover from a painful split. When the waterworks begin, cut yourself a break. You've been through a traumatic experience. Avoid jumping from one relationship to the next. Let yourself heal so you that you are in a healthy mindset when you take another shot at love. You might be tempted to self medicate with drugs, alcohol or even sex. Do not give into these dangerous and destructive urges. Consider counseling to help you work through your feelings.
Sometimes it takes the help of a professional to get through these trying times. Have a support group in place whether it's friends or family. Always know there is someone to whom you can reach out when you are really struggling. Make sure you take care of yourself by eating healthy, exercising and getting plenty of sleep. Good physical health and good mental health go hand in hand. Try and start a new routine for a sense of normalcy. Consider taking up a new hobby whether it's joining a book club, becoming part of a running club or signing up for a cooking class. Branch out and open your mind to new experiences. Last but not least, make an attempt not to dwell on the past. When you start focusing on all of the positive aspects of your partner, remind yourself of his shortcomings. Bottom line - time heals all wounds. Give yourself plenty of it.