One pitfall widows may fall into is expecting the "same" love as they shared with their first partner. It's important not to compare the two, whether it's in love or in the bedroom. No two relationships are alike – even the feeling of falling in love may not be the same the second time around. And that's OK. When it comes to having sex, the partner left behind may have some hurdles to jump before intimacy becomes comfortable and seamless. Between the death and a new relationship, sexual guilt may surround masturbation, which is a completely normal desire that should be embraced. When it comes to a new sexual partner, sexual dysfunction – erectile or vaginal – could be a problem. Counseling is helpful if the problem is chronic, and particularly in older people, seeing a physician can help greatly.