Consider your exes - would you ever consider getting back together with any of them? If you don't even have to think about the answer, and it's a resounding NO, then ask yourself what was so wrong with them. Are you the partner who usually does the dumping? Or the one who always is the one to break up first? Sometimes finding fault in every single guy you date can signal your desire to avoid intimacy. Sex and relationships expert Dr. Laura Berman says the reluctance to commit to a partner due to pickiness can signal not being comfortable in your own skin. Compare your own behavior and characteristics with those you feel strongly about in your partner - perhaps you may dislike those characteristics because you see them in yourself.