Raising a confident child can be a challenge. While some children have no issues going for what they want, other kids are more reserved and struggle to be assertive. It's important to note there is a big difference between being assertive and being aggressive. {relatedarticles}As a parent, you probably want to groom your child to be the former, not the latter. When push comes to shove -- sometimes literally -- you want your child to stand up for herself. Although it may be an inherent quality in some children, you can teach even the most reserved child to be assertive. Of course, it's important for you to lead by example. For example, when you're put in a situation where someone is trying to walk all over you, firmly put a stop to it. Show your child you refuse to stand for it.
That doesn't necessarily mean you should come to your child's rescue every time she is faced with adversity. Let your child fight her own battles - you can't be there all of the time to save the day. Teach your child to use an unyielding tone when working to be assertive. It's not about yelling or acting angry but using a firm voice. {relatedarticles}Work with your child on her mannerisms. Encourage your child to make eye contact, speak confidently and hold her head up high. Instruct your child to stand up to bullies and not waver. Don't push your child to go for what she wants at any cost. The last thing you want is to raise a bully. Remember, there's a big difference between being assertive and being aggressive.