It may seem like all bets are off when you and your partner start going at it in an argument. But out of respect and love for each other, it's important to follow a few rules of engagement so that you both fight fair. The first and most important rule is to remain in control. It's easier said than done, but losing your temper and using violence is inexcusable and an irrevocable mistake. Getting angry is understandable, but how you express it is of utmost importance. Before you begin your discussion, if you're the instigator, be sure that what you plan to argue about is worthwhile. You can't get angry at every little thing – you can choose not to fight, even when you're mad about something. See the issue from another side to be sure you should be broaching the subject confrontationally. Keep your fight private.