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Can Sensual Massage Break the Barrier of Silence Between Couples?

Can sensual massage break the barrier of silence between couples? Silence or lack of communication is attributed as one of the reasons for breaking up a marriage. The increasing cases of separation and divorce point to lack of bonding and communication between couple which earlier generations had. It wasn't a lack of time that previous generations had, but the will to explore the partners with massage techniques that kept the marriages alive. {relatedarticles}

While there are many types of massage with many therapeutic benefits the erotic or sensual massage is recommended for couples who are deprived of marital bliss.

What is a sensual massage?


It isn't just kneading muscles and pressing those joints, it's an art and science being practiced from times immemorial to forge closeness between partners. Of late it has evolved into more of an art embodying passion and lovemaking.{relatedarticles}

It is actually not just a massage but much more than that - and was practiced since long times by kings and the queens and even common people for many reasons. The art has been followed in many lands and followed by people of several cultures and races, from Africa, India and China to the Celts to the Greeks, for centuries.

While a general masseur gives a massage that can help release from bodily pains and aches, a sensual massage can be given by a loved one and can build stronger bonding between couple while it can also relieve stress.


Why was sensual massage popular with people of many cultures and races?

The massage offers innumerable benefits for those that give,  likewise that receive. The benefits immensely bolster the connection the partners share.{relatedarticles}

It should be remembered that the sensual massage doesn't merely involve kneading the muscles; it's an experience and involves perfect blend of several elements from preparation to the pressure points. Then coming to the massage part, which is about how to touch and where to touch -- it's more than just that physical touch.

It doesn't have to start with a preparation according to some; the massage can start incidentally as some pranks, jokes and play but  transition to serious sensual massage and then end in sex.

Benefits of this type of massage

Sensual massage can be erotic. It kind of evokes the sleeping senses. The massage can deliver message of promise from the giver that they are bound to them and it can help in shedding of inhibitions during the process of lovemaking.


The massage can release a person from joint aches and pains and releases the knotted nerves.

It gives the recipient a sense of emotional security that no other massage can give.{relatedarticles}

The massage acts as a precursor to romantic adventures for couples.

Sensual massage acts as another mode of communication without words but conveying the language of hearts.

There are many types of sensual massage such as lingam massage, tantra or the tantric massage, yoni massage, etc.

About The Author

Most massage parlors offer some form of the sensual massage, and the terminology used differs from parlor to parlor. Often times, the parlors may alternate the term with Lingam massage, or Yoni massage. To know more information on massage types feel free to visit the link: http://www.wikidult.com/RedPages/Massage.html

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After Infidelity: Make up or Break up

Relevance Info Services, an international publisher of quality information, approached me as an expert in relationship issues with the question if I could evaluate a number of websites that offer methods and tips for saving relationships and prevent a divorce. The fact is that, with respect for all the well meant kind of information, there are many offerings on the internet that are not based upon psychological principals. A lot of the presented materials cause more harm than any good. It is not composed by experts and that's certainly not what you want. If you are in serious trouble the situation demands a professional approach by people that are very experienced in solving relationship issues.{relatedarticles}

 

This article is about what to do after infidelity.

Iinfidelity is a betrayal, a loss of trust. It is lying or disloyalty to one's partner or lover. Infidelity may be sexual or emotional in nature and typically involves a third person. Infidelity does not necessarily involve physical separation, but can be characterized by emotional detachment as well. Emotional detachment can happen when you lose your partner's trust or if you lie to your partner or tell them half-truths. Betraying your partner may inflict a deep pain that is difficult to repair and sometimes causes irrevocable damage to the relationship that hastens its end. There are many things that can occur in the wake of infidelity. If you are married, infidelity could lead to divorce. If you are in a committed relationship, it could lead to a break up.


So what happens after infidelity occurs in your relationship?

There are distinct stages a relationship goes through in the wake of infidelity.

1. Roller Coaster Stage. This is the stage where strong emotions arise - emotions such as anger and self-blame followed by a period of introspection and appreciation of the relationship. Just like it says, your emotions go for a roller coaster ride, up and down, round and round and it's a bit hard to figure out exactly where you are.{relatedarticles}

2. Moratorium Stage. This stage is a less emotional stage, at least for the person who was cheated upon. In this stage, the person affected tries to make sense of the betrayal. They may ask for more detail about the affair or retreat into themselves or quietly seek help from others regarding the issue.

3. Trust Building Stage. This stage takes place when the couple has decided to stay together. During this stage, the couple really tries to make their marriage work. They decide that a continued commitment to their relationship is important and with time, eventually forgiveness and trust can be achieved.

After an infidelity occurs, you may still find yourself often doubting your partner. Don't lose heart, there is hope. Here are some signs that may indicate if a person is still worthy of your love.


- Expresses sincere remorse and regret for cheating on you

- Heartfelt apologies feel true when you hear them

- Accepts total blame for his or her betrayal

- Cuts off all contact with the third party

- Shows a renewed appreciation, admiration, respect and devotion to only you{relatedarticles}

- Displays a willingness and openness to talk about what happened

- Is willing and eager to go into marriage counseling with you

If both of you are willing to participate in a deep, open, and honest conversation regarding your relationship and how you would like it to progress, there is a good chance you will be able to work through your issues.

If, on the other hand, your partner is not open to discussing these things with you and not demonstrating any of the possible reconcilement signs listed above, it may be time to cut your losses and get out. Additional signs that it might be time to end the relationship are: your partner seems to be more agitated than usual and seems to emotionally and physically withdraw from you.


They may go out alone more often and may be making clandestine phone calls or working late hours. You might even receive anonymous phone calls at the house. If several of these things are occurring, then most probably your partner is cheating on you. If you can find concrete evidence of this infidelity, then it's probably a good idea to break up. A relationship that is based on lies, lacks trust and lack of commitment is doomed to fail.{relatedarticles}

After an infidelity occurs, be aware of any signs that may indicate your partner's willingness to stay and work it out or clear intention to follow along the path of continued betrayal. Just be careful and pay attention. Make the best decision for you.

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I would be pleased to guide you in the process after infidelity or go to http://stop-a-divorce-info.com.

This article was written by expert author Ruth Martin for Relevance Info Services

The author invites you to visit: http://stop-a-divorce-info.com
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5 Dating Rules That You Should Not Break If You Want To Succeed at Dating

Love is not predictable, so why should dating have rules? Well, the reason for this is that when women follow their hearts and not their heads during dating, the way that they act around men is not always in their own best interests. You can't expect to treat a man like you would treat a girlfriend if you want to make him crazy about you. Whether or not you agree, here are 5 dating rules that you must not break if you want to succeed at dating:

Rule #1 - Don't get Attached Too Quickly

He's gorgeous and cute on the surface, but take your time and get to know the real person before you allow yourself to attach to him. This will save you a lot of heartbreak and disappointment when you find out he's not the man you thought he was or he was never really looking for a relationship. If you take some time to find out who he is first, you can eliminate the bad ones quickly and find yourself a top quality man.{relatedarticles}

Rule #2 - Don't Pressure or Chase

OK, so this one seems unfair. Why should we have to sit back and wait while we let the man do the chasing? The reason is that chasing a man generally does not work in the long-term. A man will generally resist any pressure that you put on him and you could find yourself in a battle.


Generally, pursuit is in the genes of a man. If you make it easy for him, he will not find you half as interesting as if you present a challenge. He might be flattered at first, but he will lose interest quickly. Don't believe me? Next time you are dating, try holding back just a little bit and see how much it sparks his interest.

Rule #3 - Don't Expect Too Much Too Soon

Don't think that you are in a relationship just because you've had a few dates or he seems really into you. If you want to succeed at dating, you must take it slowly and be patient. When you start to display premature expectations of a relationship, everything changes and he starts to feel pressurised. Make sure you stay cool if you want to get that guy.{relatedarticles}

Rule #4 - Don't Reveal Too Much Too Soon

We women are fairly open creatures and we like to be honest. When we feel close to someone it is easy for us to open up and spill everything out about what has gone wrong in our lives and relationships. When you first meet a man, resist the urge to tell him anything that he might interpret negatively. It is easy to put a man off with tales of past boyfriends or premature confessions, so be on your guard and save these for when your relationship is stronger.


Rule #5 - Don't Sleep With Him Straight Away

OK, so you don't like this one either, but it's a fact. When you sleep with a man, you will start to become attached to him, even before you have established that he is a suitable partner. Now that you are attached to him, you will have expectations of a relationship. You have presented yourself as easy prey and the challenge is over for him before it begins. You have already broken most of these dating rules. Yes, he will happily sleep with you, although now he is more likely to see you as someone to have sex with rather than someone to have a relationship with.{relatedarticles}

When you hold back and see yourself and your body as too valuable to just give away to someone you barely know, he will see you as valuable too. He will be intrigued and want you more. You will be laying the foundations for long-term attraction and a relationship. When you don't give into your urges to break these rules, you will be able succeed at dating.

About The Author

When you learn how dating works for a man, you give yourself an incredible advantage. You will understand why he behaves the way he does and what you can do to draw him closer rather than push him away. Sign up now at http://www.ensuremydatingsuccess.info to learn secrets that will help you meet and keep your dream man. Or visit http://www.datingtorelationshipadvice.com/DatingRelationshipTipsHelp/EarlyRelationshipAdvice.html for advice on how to succeed at dating.
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