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The Pros and Cons of One-Night Stands

Maybe you just got dumped, haven't had sex in longer than you'd like to admit or are just really horny. Whatever the reason, a one-night stand could be the cure. However, if you're new to sex with strangers, you might be a little leery. Before you hit the clubs on the prowl, check out these pros and cons to make sure the experience is really what you want.

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Let's start with the pros of a one-night stand. The benefits of a tryst with a sexy stranger can include:

  • Mind-blowing Sex - One-night stands are often the result of body shots and beer buckets, which can lower shyness and increase experimentation. You're never going to see him again, so go ahead and try that pretzel-twist or fake British accent if that's what gets you going.
  • Ego Boost - Feeling like you've lost your mojo? Making eyes from across the room and closing the deal with ease can make you feel like the world's sexiest woman.{relatedarticles}
  • Feeling Liberated - Been shackled to the missionary position and polite kissing with boring dudes? Use this as a way to break out of the mold of the "good girl" and enjoy sex like a man.
  • "No really, baby, I did it for you." - A recent study published in the Journal of Human Sexuality showed that friends with benefits, one-night stands and booty calls can actually help people make better decisions when they finally decide to enter long-term relationships.

On the other hand, exploring the sexual playground could leave you getting sand kicked in your face. The cons could come along with a quickie.

  • Sexually Transmitted Diseases - You don't know this person very well and therefore are in the dark about his or her sexual health and history. You may also be inebriated, which can cause you to do things, like have sex without protection, that you normally would not.{relatedarticles}
  • You Could Become Depressed - Making one-night stands a regular thing could mean you're seeking something you can't get from regular relationships. Beware of these interactions if you start feeling used or guilty.

  • Becoming Attached - Sorry, ladies, but some of us have a hard time separating sex and emotions. If the thought of a guy sneaking out in the night or not taking you to brunch after you've spent the night doing the nasty makes you upset, you should skip the one-night stand.

Got the good and bad and you're still ready to go? When trolling for a one-time night of passion, you can put these tactics to the test to get what you are looking for.

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  • Put yourself in the right situation - Places like weddings, holiday parties, dance clubs and hotels are breeding grounds for one-night stands. People are in high spirits, drinking and ready to have a good time.
  • Look Like You're Having Fun - No one is going to hit on you if you look like your dog just died. Get out on the dance floor, tell jokes, do a shot - show guys that up for anything and looking to have fun.
  • Protect Yourself - Keep an eye on your drink, and if you leave with a guy, let your friends know where you are going and when you expect to be back. Pop a few condoms in your clutch - nothing makes a temporary experience more permanent than a baby or disease.{relatedarticles}
  • Play it Cool - Even if you are new to one-night stands, don't tell your potential hookup, and don't expect a relationship. By keeping your expectations in check you can prevent possible disappointment.

  • Be Mysterious - The point of this exercise is to be anonymous and fleeting. Don't even use your real name if you can help it, and refrain from contacting him on social media post-coitus.

  • Don't Feel Guilty - Society has programmed women to feel bad about exploring and embracing their sexuality. You won't feel sexy or be able to enjoy the experience if you're worried about looking like a "slut" the whole time.
  • Stick with a Stranger - Hooking up with a friend, coworker or a relative of a friend can cause awkwardness in the light of day. Keeping it strictly-stranger can help you avoid problems and embarrassing run-ins.{relatedarticles}

In the end, you should do what you feel comfortable with and not feel pressured. If you find yourself in a situation that scares you or makes you feel uncomfortable, get out of there. Just because you started something with a guy doesn't mean you have to finish it. On the other hand, it can be a great exercise in pushing your personal boundaries and creating new life experiences to do something out of the ordinary and challenge yourself.

By thinking through the options beforehand you can ensure that you are making the right decision - even if you feel bad about it later, don't beat yourself up for too long. After all, you will never see that person again and you don't even need to tell your friends about the one-night stand if you don't want to. Keeping it to yourself can be a great little secret that adds to your mystery and relationship wisdom.


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Dirty Talk for Shy Women

Believe it or not, dirty talk isn't just reserved for phone sex operators and porn stars. Even the average Jane is capable of some serious trash talking if it means turning on her man. Many guys get a cheap thrill over having their girls talk sexy smack. If the notion of talking dirty intimidates you, keep an open mind before you vow to close your mouth.

Dirty talk is becoming more commonly accepted in modern relationships, and some men even request or accept it. Although the mere thought of talking dirty can be embarrassing, there are some ways you master the art of dirty talk and quickly become a pro.

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What does your man like?

When it comes to sex, you can't please your man if you don't know what he wants or how he likes it. The same holds true for dirty talk, so if you don't know, it never hurts to ask. You'll want to get to the bottom of what types of words or phrases turn him on.

Before you embark on this hot new journey, it's definitely a good idea to have a talk before some "talk." You want to get a good grasp on his likes and dislikes. Although you may feel stupid for asking, having a frank discussion with him helps you know your man better. It's no different than how you would address anything else that goes on behind closed doors. Plus, if he really loves you, he will be patient and helpful.


Learn from the Pros

Watch some porn for inspiration. Although many adult films are badly scripted, you may be able to take away some ideas from these flesh flicks. Read an erotic book for tips. A dirty magazine with photos and sexy stories can be helpful. Consider reading them aloud to your man for inspiration. If you have enough courage, call a phone sex operator and ask for advice.

Start Slow

You're not going to become an expert right away, so ease into the process. If talking dirty in person makes you cringe, start with email or text messaging. Emails and texts allow you to think before you send, so you have a little extra time to come up with something naughty. Plus, you don't see your partner's reaction, so it eases some of the pressure.

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Once you feel more comfortable, make the seamless transition to phone sex. You'll actually be talking dirty to your man, but not face-to-face. Of course, you won't see any of his reactions, which can make it a little easier. Once you have conquered this step, it's time to move on to the real deal.


Know Your Limits

You don't have to swear like a sailor to engage in dirty talk. If you don't feel comfortable using dirty words, then keep it clean -- as in profanity free. Your man should understand and want you to feel comfortable. Plus, dirty talk quickly loses its allure when it seems rigid or forced. .

Start with things you are comfortable with saying. For example, if you and your man have special names for your private areas, use them. Feel free to use metaphors for things you want to say, but would otherwise feel uncomfortable saying. For example, instead of using the F-word, you can use verbs like "do me" or "thrust me" without sounding like a hardcore porn star.

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You can also use examples of "soft" dirty talk to get you started and hopefully rev your man's motor. Some simple but effective phrases you can use include "You really turn me on when you do that," "Want to see what I really want?" or "Punish me, I've been naughty today." The trick is not simply to "copy" phrases that you've seen or heard, but to actually say what you want to do and or what you are thinking. In other words, put some feeling behind it.

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Once you feel comfortable with these types of phrases, you can move on to dirty talk that's a little more provocative. You can start by describing what you're going to do your man before you actually do it. This will get him excited in anticipation of what will happen next. You can says things like "I'm going to take control of you tonight," "I'm going to strip for you right now" or "I'm going to kiss you all over."


If you get comfortable with these phrases, you can move on to hardcore dirty talk - the crème de la crème. Without embarrassment, you tell your man how you really feel. Let loose and say whatever is on your mind sexually speaking. Use your imagination and let your inhibitions run wild. Your man will think he's with a hot porn star.

Relax

You're probably getting stressed out, thinking how you can muster up the courage and ability to talk like this to your man. But the main thing is to relax and just let things happen naturally. You know how when your man stresses out about sex, he doesn't perform as well? It's the same with dirty talk. If you stress too much, it sounds unnatural and forced, which is the opposite of what you're trying to accomplish.

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Granted, some people work well under pressure, but when you're still learning the ropes of successful dirty talk, relaxation is very important. Practice makes perfect. As long as you're trying your best to not let your shyness overcome you, then your man should be pleased with your progress.


Although talking dirty can make many shy women feel immoral or disgusting, learning the art of dirty talk can make actually bring you closer to your man. Once you get accustomed to the act, it can actually improve your sex life by turning on your significant other.

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A little old fashioned dirty talk actually helps women let go of those inhibitions and experiment in the bedroom. If your man enjoys dirty talk, consider cutting loose and cultivating a mouth that's worthy of some soap.


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5 Best Places to Have Intercourse

Let's face it: having sex under the sheets, with the lights turned off, in your bedroom every night is totally boring. You've done it a million times. (Well maybe not a million exactly...) Sure some of those times were pretty amazing, but it's really just not an exciting environment anymore.{relatedarticles}

If your bedroom romps are getting you down, it's time to expand your repertoire and take those moves elsewhere. The world is full of sexy and exhilarating places to get it on, so turn up the heat and try doing it at one of the six best places to have sex. It's important to keep in mind that while diversifying your portfolio of places to have sex can be fun, it's also risky business. Keep in mind that doing the nasty in public is a crime. If this is an avenue you can to puruse, proceed with the utmost caution.

On the beach

What's sexier than the beach? The cool breeze, the sound of the ocean, the crash of the waves; not to mention you're both in your skivvies - and it's publicly acceptable! It's all a major turn-on.


So take advantage of this sexy environment! Find a VERY secluded spot and make the moves on your man. Roll around in the sand and get dirty with him. Sunbathe topless. If someone catches you in the act, just pretend you thought you were at a "nude beach." It was an innocent mistake, right?

Bonus: you can fall asleep under the sun in each other's arms once you're done! Hello, sun kissed tan. Word to the wise -- avoid people at all costs unless you want to end up sitting in the slammer for indecent exposure.{relatedarticles}

In the great outdoors

Take a break from the bedroom, and move your playtime outside. Do it under the sun on a blanket in a deserted park or get cozy on a chair by the pool. Jump your man while lying under the stars by the campfire, or roll on top of him while cuddled up in your tent.

Whether you're camping, having a picnic at the park or just soaking up the sun in your backyard, the opportunities for an outdoor romp are endless. With the ground underneath and nature all around, you'll find sex outside is a whole new, exciting experience. We won't be surprised if you want to go for a second round!

At the office

Sex at the workplace is totally forbidden, and your guy could get in BIG trouble for it. Naturally, that's why office sex is every guy's dream. It's SO off limits. You can role play naughty secretary and powerful boss.


Here's what you do: show up at his work and tell his secretary you're there to "bring him lunch." Wear your sexiest "office" clothing - a tight knee skirt, a low-cut blouse, thigh-high stockings and killer pumps. When you get to his office, greet him with a big smile and lock the door behind you.{relatedarticles}

Waste no time! Drop your decoy lunch and wrap your arms around him. While kissing him, push him into the office closet and shut yourselves in. This spontaneous love attack will get him so hot and bothered he won't know what hit him, and you'll love the adrenaline of doing it in an off-limits place. Anyone could walk in at any moment! You're so naughty!{relatedarticles}

In a (nice) public bathroom

Doing it in public is always hot. Knowing other people might hear or see you doing your naughty deeds is exhilarating, exciting and a huge turn-on. So take it one step further; do it in a public bathroom at a crowded place. (Make sure it's a nice, clean one, of course.)

Try the bathroom in a nice hotel lobby while you're waiting to check in, or pull your man into the restaurant men's room after Sunday brunch. Do it on the sink counter in front of the mirror and watch yourselves get down with your bad selves. Dance up on him at the club, and then take him to a stall and finish the job. Whatever you do, just make sure you lock the stall door.


On top of the dryer

It's double the pleasure, double the fun when you take your romp to the laundry room. Not only is it cozy and warm in there, it smells so fresh and clean!

Turn the dryer on a low tumble dry cycle and hop on top. Pull your man close.{relatedarticles}

The vibrating rumble of the dryer will only heighten your pleasure as you get it on with your guy; it's like a 2 for 1 deal!

You'll be so turned on, you might just have to try it on the washer once you're done!

So if you're tired of the same old, same old, in the bedroom, try taking your man to one of these six sexy places. Whether you choose the beach, the movies, the laundry room, the bathroom or the elevator, you'll both get turned on by the excitement of doing it in a new place, and you might even discover a newfound lust for each other. Give it a shot! But remember to exercise the utmost discretion. The last thing you want is to get caught in the act.


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