Next, take a look at how you look. Are you making less of an effort - or none at all - to look pretty and alluring? If neither of you have any desire to be sexy for one another, then it's time to examine why. When you're out with your friends, do you put your guy down? If you find yourself asking friends about his jerky behavior or their opinion about your guy, then ask yourself why. Instead of looking for reassurance from friends, you should try discussing your relationship with your mate instead.