Talk about what you both like, dislike and deal breakers. Perhaps one partner is OK with spanking but doesn't want to be restrained at all. A partner who has experienced domestic violence or abuse may not want to be involved in being spanked or spanking his or her partner. These limitations should be discussed from the outset. Once that's out of the way, then you can try some kinky acts, like tying one another up and light spanking, with items you already own, like ties for restraints and blindfolds, and using hands only to spank lightly. If the two of you decide this type of kinkiness and role play are arousing and want to take it to the next level, then you might want to look into other toys, like handcuffs. Adult stores and online stores like Good Vibrations have even begun selling 50 Shades packages that include anything a newbie might need, such as comfortable neoprene handcuffs, ben wa balls and even nipple clamps. The best rule of thumb is to keep the lines of communication open between you and your partner so that no one gets hurt.