5 Ways to Take Control in the Bedroom

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Tip #4 - Get on Top

Riding cowgirl is the most effective way for a women to control the pace and pleasure of lovemaking. Oftentimes it takes much more stimulation for a woman to reach climax than a man. Experiment with different postures like reverse cowgirl, sitting upright or leaning back, holding him tightly torso-to-torso, or both of you in a sitting position.

From the top position, you can gyrate your hips in a circular motion to hit just the right spots. You are also in control of the thrusting rhythm, giving you power over the speed of things. Grinding your pelvises together will also provide some invigorating clitoral stimulation. Being on top also limits his range of motion, ensuring your sexual escapades will last even longer.

Tip #5 - Be Open to New Experiences

You won't become that sexual force to be reckoned with if you aren't willing to try new things. Exercising control in the bedroom doesn't mean you need to don leathers and a whip. The play for power is sexy business and one you can wield with confidence when you are comfortable with yourself and your partner.

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There are lots of resources out there, like books and workshops, on the art of female dominance, so check out your local bookstore and community listings. Get some inspiration from movies with strong female-driven love scenes like Clint Eastwood's The Rookie and Nine 1/2 Weeks. Experimenting with role-play can help to quash the jitters and help you to embody an "I'm the boss" type of persona.