Keep in mind that many men know that when a woman says she won't get mad, she's lying and will get upset. So men who realize this will lie right back with, "It's fantastic on you!" -- even if it does make you look big.
How to Decide if a Relationship Lie Is OK
Before you tell a lie, think about how it will affect your man. Answer the following questions to decide if it's OK.
- Will the lie make your man happy, feel empowered or more in love with you?
- If he found out the truth, would it be something he would break up with you over?
- Are you lying about something morally wrong?
- Will your lie betray him?
- Is your justification of the lie in his best interest?
If you can answer these questions with a clear conscience that your white lie won't hurt him or the relationship, the lie is most likely OK to tell.{relatedarticles}
What to Do if Caught in the Lie
Sometimes people who tell white lies get caught. When this happens, the best thing to do is to come clean. Don't try to come up with another lie to cover up your initial lie. Remember the phrase, "Oh, the tangled web we weave."
Tell him that you told the lie because you didn't want to hurt him with the truth. You love him too much to see him upset, especially when the cause is you.
He may still be upset, but if you show that you only meant to be loyal and supportive, he will come around to see you only wanted the best for him because you love him.
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